“Look Aussie, the library is holding Paws to Read sessions, when you read books to dogs. In the first session you can read a book to Rio and the next you can read a book to J-Lo.”

“They look like Goldens to me, rich, coddled, and purebred. Discrimination!”

“Aussie, I didn’t know you loved books so much. What book would you like me to read to you?”

How to Kill Your Own Food.”

“Anything else?”

Running Away from Home: A Primer for Growing Up.”

It’s over 70 degrees Fahrenheit today. The skies are blue, the sun yellow, the birds cheerful. Yesterday I posted about how Aussie has an internal GPS always showing her where I am even as she pursues other animals or saunters far from me. I’m developing a different GPS in my mind, the kind that reminds me that no matter what I’m doing, what suffering I witness personally and what I read or hear from others, still there’s joy.

That hasn’t come naturally to me. I was one of the serious ones in my family, too aware of the Holocaust we came from and the improbability of my being alive. And since I was alive, I reasoned, I had to dedicate my life to helping others. That was my lifelong rationale for living.

“Wherever we’re from, we have the storms that we know,” said Krista Tippett in a recent interview of the Louisiana-based climate activist, Colette Pinchon Battle. But storms are not just a call for protection and vigilance, they’re also reminders of the blessing of survival, of being alive.

Bernie used to be my source of fun and merriment. He founded the Order of Disorder and loved to clown. When he was in the rehabilitation hospital after his big stroke, I always found therapists and nurses in his room. They liked hanging out there because, even with aphasia that limited his talking, he could still share humor and fun. They were accustomed to other patients, with strokes nowhere near as disabling as Bernie’s, who were angry and depressed.

In particular, I remember a college professor who’d gone in for bypass surgery and had a mild stroke in the middle of the procedure. His body didn’t suffer, he was fully mobile, but his speech was a bit slurred though the therapists were sure he would overcome that and have a full recovery. He’d come into Bernie’s room saying: “I hear you’re a Zen master, so what do you think of this?” And he’d ramble angrily about the doctors, the nurses, and his much younger wife who stood at his side quietly, even as Bernie tried to follow what he was saying from where he lay in bed, barely able to talk himself, unable at that time to walk or do anything for himself.

Later, when he came home, even when he fell on the floor and I’d hover over him fearfully, asking what happened, he’d say slowly: “The-floor-wanted-to-have-a-conversation. Just-a-small-one.”

While he smiled and grunted a lot, he himself didn’t fully laugh often. But there were several times when, either around the table or in bed, he’d say something and start laughing, then look at me. I’d start laughing, too, then laugh harder, and then he’d surrender to a long, drawn-out, high-pitched belly laugh that went on and on. It was as if we’d both egg each other on to see who could laugh harder and deeper. Lately I’ve been remembering those times quite a lot.

When he left this world, it was as if fun and laughter left with him. I realized that I had to be responsible for my own joy now. It’s what happens when a partner goes. You realize that, like in football, he played a particular position. If you want the game to go on, you have to cover that position yourself now, or at least find others around you to do this.

In my own life, the birds have taken over the position of giving me joy. The horses in a neighboring farm, who neigh and run over across the meadow when I appear with apples, have taken over Bernie’s “joy” position. There’s Henry, who litters my bedroom with Pinky the Elephant, the green frog, and half a dozen turtles that are wet and smelly from his saliva. He hears the meditation alarm going off in my room in the morning and stands by the door, scraping at it and whining. “Aren’t you done yet? Aren’t you done yet?” And when I open the door, he rushes forward: “Time to PLAYYYYYYYY!”

I met Jimena some 10 days ago to give out some food cards and help for a family that couldn’t afford rent, and came into a rehearsal for a quinceanera, a party celebrating a young girl’s 15th birthday.  The girl brought her friends, boys and girls, and they rehearsed the dances they were going to do in the April party. Her father operated the music and Jimena and I stood to the side watching girls and boys dancing in couples, stepping on each other’s feet, and generally having a blast. The girl celebrating the quinceanera took charge, organizing and cajoling them, saying: “Be serious, this is important!”

Serious? I don’t know. Important to dance? Definitely.

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Like many people, I watched Volodymyr Zelensky’s talk to the US Congress that took place Wednesday morning.

At first, I was surprised that he used 2 minutes of his short talk to show a video, but once I saw it, I understood: Children playing in the park, then held by a fleeing father as rockets explode behind them; apartment buildings standing like Legos under the sun, then black smoke and sections of wall crumbling. Older people seated and talking on a city bench, then wheelchaired away from the fighting, an old man sitting weeping next to a body covered by a bloody sheet.

Day-to-day normal, followed by devastation, all under one heaven, one God, on a rock circling a sun in the tiniest corner of space.

But this was nothing like a video Andrzej Krajewski sent from Warsaw. My friends Andrzej, and more importantly his daughter, Orina, lead a Polish organization bringing medical supplies into Ukraine and bringing out refugees, then taking care of those refugees in Poland. I strongly recommend their work, they’re completely trustworthy and dependable. If you would use PayPal and would like to donate to their work, go to your PayPal account and put in as the recipient of whatever funds you wish to give.

The video Andrzej posted showed Ukrainians facing down armored military vehicles coming towards them on a wet street. One woman is shouting at the top of her lungs as she, a man and another woman walk quickly towards the first vehicle with soldiers inside, a Ukrainian crowd behind them. The vehicle slows down and comes to a stop. The soldiers inside come out and shoot into the air. No one backs down.

The man lies down in front of the wheels of the giant vehicle while the women stand right in front of it.

Another vehicle comes down the adjacent lane and slows down, and several women lean right into its front and push with all their might. The phone camera captures their hands pushing hard against the metal grille, grasping for a better hold, their feet stepping back to give them more strength and balance as they lean forward and push against the armored carrier as hard as they can. A moment passes, another moment, the vehicle slowly inching forward, the women taking a step back, then another, then another, still pushing against the carrier as hard as they can, and then they can’t hold on any longer and it lurches forward, the crowd leaping to the side.

I watched those minutes again and again, and thought: This is why we support them so much. Yes, valid questions abound about why we don’t support people in Yemen, Ethiopia, Afghanistan, and others like this, very important questions. But like it or not, cameras in Ukraine capture ordinary people, like you and me, putting their own bodies on the line against armed and armored soldiers. They’re not soldiers, have no guns, grenades, artillery, or rockets, so they use their bodies.

Sometimes we say: I don’t have skin in the game, an American idiom meaning I’m not engaged or involved here in any way. Putting skin against metal was exactly what these women did. For a few minutes it was not just Ukrainians against Russians, it was the human body, in all its smallness, frailty, and resilience, against the implacable, relentless machine.

On some level, I want to fight the good fight, but I don’t and often can’t. Even when I identify something in our own country that I wish to fight for, our causes are often so veiled in dogma, partisanship, controversy, and plain old abstractions that it’s hard to put skin in the game. We rely on structures: the courts, the police only sometimes, on voting, on getting our party in. None of that feels like bending our entire body into an armored carrier.

That things are coming at us down wet streets—no, they’re here already!—is clear. Even here in the Happy Valley storms feel more explosive, the lack of housing rears threateningly especially in the cold winter, and poverty will get worse as pandemic aid and child credits end. Still, it’s easy to get lost in the fog of words.

What are our equivalents to those women using their bodies to block armored vehicles from entering their city? I think of people protesting nuclear plants by trying to break open the padlocks of locked facilities or else shaking the metal bars that prevent entry. It’s physical and therefore feels real, even visceral, demanding not just skin in the game but every cell, tissue, bone, and muscle you got. I think of those who climb up the big trees and stay there to protect them from loggers.

The rest of us? We send money, participate in a local demonstration, volunteer. We may even take a bus down to DC for a protest, we’ll vote and even agitate for and against various things. These actions are not just good but crucial. We accept the long run of things, the slow step-by-step march towards achieving a vision for our society and country even as many of us won’t live to see its fulfillment.

The scene of going head-to-head with the monster as those women did blew me away. And inspired me to go on, continue on that march without distraction.

“You know,” Leeann Warner once said to me, “your dog Aussie has a GPS in her head. She likes to run away, but she never loses sight of where we are. She can leave the pack and run up the ridge so that we don’t see her, but she continues on the ridge never losing sight of where the rest of us are.”

Different things pull me away from my vows, but by now I, too, have a GPS in my head that reminds me, wherever I am and however I’m feeling, where the work lies.

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We walked down a new path today. Veered off a well-known road that we’ve taken for a few years and instead followed an offshoot going further into the white hills. Of course, as we walked down the new path, we discovered additional trails veering off south and north, so I was again faced by the question: Do I stay on the path I’m on or do I go off?

Aussie peers down the snowy valley beneath us, body tensing. Something is there, she wants to run. If there were deer there, she certainly would. She’s tempted, her hair shivers, nostrils twitching, but she doesn’t run. I am her family and security, I represent food and shelter, companionship, security. Most of the time she stays with me, and sometimes she runs.

When do I stay, and when do I run?

Right now, I’m feeling a bit stale. I do the things I usually do, but don’t feel the rush of creativity in my bloodstream. The mornings don’t feel new (though we’ve had snow alternating with spring since the beginning of March); even the longer evenings that began on Sunday, with their gorgeous sunsets, don’t bring with them freshness and renewal. It’s as if I’m not exhaling thoroughly enough, so that my body contains old air and my life force feels weak and musty.

I don’t like these periods even as I know by now that they’re a natural part of one’s life, or at least of one’s creative life. Still, I want to do something about it. Do I go off my usual course? Where to? Do what? How?

Tomorrow in the early morning I’m in front of a Zoom screen with a small international group looking anew at the Rule of the Zen Peacemaker Order that was created towards the end of 1997, itself based on Buddhist precepts dating back 2500 years ago. Our job is to look at the Rule with new eyes and ask: Is this right for our life right now? How does this help us live both authentically and ethically? What strength and courage does it give us? What effectiveness to our work?

Sometimes renewal demands of you to pause and ask questions. Sometimes it demands of you to go off the path you’re on and explore something new.

There are risks to going off-road. Yesterday, walking the dogs together, I asked Lori if, when she takes Henry out after finishing her work, she could include Aussie as well, thus relieving me of some dog-walking duties. She was a little tentative in her response because of Aussie’s tendency to run. I assured her I hadn’t seen Aussie disappear for a while in a long time.

We were walking on the road all together, and had we stayed on the road everything would have been fine. Instead, I had the brilliant idea of going off-road and following a loop in the woods down to the railroad tracks and then back up. We passed a depression made by deer in winter, three deer leaped out and ran, white tails bobbing, and Aussie ran off after them, disappearing for at least 20 minutes.

“Where were you?” she says, greeting us in front of our house as we returned. “I’ve been waiting and waiting.”

“Aussie, I hoped you’d be on your best behavior so that Lori could see how easy you are. Instead, you ran and failed the audition.”

Is the moral of the tale: Don’t leave the road you’re already on?

Often, I want to stay the course because that way I’ll finish something: the blog, the book, the project, the job. I’m not in my 20s or 30s, don’t have a big horizon of time ahead of me, and I worry that if I veer off-course too much nothing will get done. In fact, I’ve always admired people who basically stayed the course, did their thing, didn’t mix it up too much, and therefore had a body of work to show for their consistency and focus—books, paintings, songs, even a thriving sangha.

But we did go off the road this morning, and once we explore it for a while, we’ll probably go off the path again to look at the other trails, too. We know the comfort of stepping in footprints already made by other humans and other dogs. Been there, done that.

In the photo above, Henry’s wondering which way to go, but I have my doubts about the side where, other than a few footprints at the very start, the snow is untrammeled. Does it lie on top of an ice-covered pond? Lots of those in this forest. How do I know it’s safe? More important, how do I know it will get me back to the main road, the car, and finally home?

In the photo below Aussie’s looking down the new path. Henry’s run up ahead, but she stands and listens, then follows. That’s what I think I’ll do, too.

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“Yesterday was my day, named after me.”

“Aussie Day?”

“No, it was the annual Day of Awesomeness. Aussie is short for Awesome.”

“Actually, Aussie, Bernie named you after Australia.”

“I don’t care, I’m Awesome Aussie. But did we celebrate it? Where’s my steak?”

I admit that every time I hear the word awesome, I remember Everything Is Awesome, the theme of The Lego Movie and the stupidest song in creation. It’s no wonder that we discover late in this terrific film that President Business uses the song to brainwash all the characters in the story—only he managed to brainwash me, too, and probably many others who can’t stop thinking of that song.

Have we lowered the bar on awesomeness? The Jewish Days of Awe are called that because during those days we are trying to encounter God as directly as we can. I sat next to someone undergoing a haircut this morning, and when asked what she thought of it, she said it’s awesome.

Maybe there are some awesome things happening. First and foremost, the awesome resistance by Ukrainians against overwhelming odds. Secondly, governments coming together across boundaries and continents to pressure Vladimir Putin to withdraw from Ukraine. Millions of private donations from people everywhere, individuals coming together to send shipments of medical supplies and other materials, open arms for refugees, and young people using the web, social media, and apps (including ones they themselves invent) to help the Ukrainians defend their country.

At the same time, we’re immediately told that none of this is good enough. I’m not talking about Zelensky, who’s been asking for fighter jets, but rather about articles and columns I read coming from liberal activists. One such article appeared in our local newspaper. After declaring that everyone wants this horrible war to stop before the Ukraine becomes an ash heap, the writer immediately intoned: What about Afghanistan? What about Yemen and Israel/Palestine? What about the racism entrenched in this country that we haven’t even begun to address yet? What about reparations? What do we owe Native Americans? What about this, and this, and this?

Then it’s on to the end of biodiversity, the extinction of species, and the heating up of the planet.

I don’t contest the actual opinions of the writer. I support work to remedy almost all these issues and have done some of that work myself. I also think it’s good for us to remember that we are not innocent here and have no right to be self-righteous. We invaded the sovereign nation of Iraq in 2003, whose borders are very far from us rather than contiguous (as Ukraine is to Russia), based on faulty intelligence and the fact that their head of state was one of the least popular heads of state in the world. Speaking of awesome, remember Shock and Awe?

What I don’t like is to be on the receiving end of what feels like constant head-bashing. We’re okay here, but where are you on this issue? And this? And this? Feeling good about the massive cooperation the government achieved around Ukraine? Well don’t, because there’s still Saudi Arabia around, the Israelis still occupy Palestine, the Black Lives Matter fight goes on, just look at the recent decisions by the courts around abortion and LGBTQ rights, etc., etc.

Hannah Arendt wrote that totalitarian regimes spread misinformation as a vital tool for getting power. It’s not that they think that what they say will be believed, their objective is to basically sow confusion, create false equivalencies and comparisons, and make it hard to discern truth from falsehood so that in the end people shake their head, say Who can you trust?, and become passive. That’s the kind of population they can rule.

I don’t have to remind us how much of this appears in our own media today, in this country.

But I sometimes think the progressive side has its own version of this, consisting of the lobbing of denigrations and accusations one after another, with the rat-a-tat regularity of a machine gun.  It’s almost Puritan in its relentless focus, as if all of us are guilty of major sin by virtue of being American regardless of how we’ve lived and what we’ve chosen to do with our days.

What do these volleys of accusations and self-accusations achieve in the end? Does this really inspire people, or does it lead to a shrug of the shoulders as if to say, The world is fucked, nothing I can do about it? I read the article last night and tossed it. Didn’t feel empowered, didn’t feel energized, just felt tired.

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“Come on, Aussie, time to go.”

“Where are we going? Oh no, not to Jimena again and people needing help! I already did my work today, it’s time for me to have a rest.”

“What work did you do, Auss?”

“I went to Leeann. You think that’s easy? That means running around with Crazy Evi the Mountain Cur and going back for a treat from Leeann. Chasing Percy the Golden and going back for a treat from Leeann. Splashing around with Lucinda the whatever, going back for a treat from Leeann. Chasing rabbits, going back for a treat. I worked hard!”

“Aussie, Bernie used to say that throughout our life we must take care of ourselves, the family, the community, and the world. At various times we’ll emphasize one over the others, like when you have little kids, but always we should try to do something all around.”

“That’s too much for me.”

“I mean small things, Aussie. For instance, this evening we’ll help out the immigrant community that lives 20 minutes away from us. I also give money to send medical supplies to Ukraine. I talk daily with my mother and weekly with my brother and sister. And for me, I sit, read, enjoy the snow.”

“And what do you do for me? The Man should have said: We must take care of ourselves, the family, the community, the world—and our dogs!”

“Aussie, you can also serve. You’re the only dog Jimena’s not afraid of. She was bitten badly early in her life and she won’t get near other dogs, but she loves you. She comes out to stroke you in the car—”

“Big deal! And speaking of big deal, do you notice how many Ukranian refugees take their dogs and cats with them?”

“What a fight they’re putting up. In contrast, we live spoiled lives here in the Valley, Auss. When I think of the things we complain about! The WiFi is slow, a pipe froze and burst in the garage—”

“You weren’t so happy about that!”

The check didn’t come quickly enough. The car needs more work. Why is it always snowing when I want to go out? The Ukrainians have so much less, and right now their world feels much bigger than ours! They’re focused, they know what they want, they know what’s on the line. We forget. Often the world feels like it’s shrinking around me and I find myself worrying about small, petty things. It’s so easy to get self-involved! So guess what, Aussie? You’re coming with me to Jimena!”

As I was growing up, whenever I did something my mother didn’t like, which was quite often, she’d say: “You don’t know how good you have it. I never had the chances you have. I never had the opportunities you have.”

The chances for what? Opportunities for what? I think she meant higher education and a “good marriage,” none of which I cared about. It’s not my fault I didn’t live during the Holocaust, I wanted to tell her.

What did I care about? I wanted to live a big life, a meaningful life. From a young age I didn’t want to live according to what’s acceptable. Even when, as a teenager, I worried about dates on Saturday night or what friends would say about me, I knew deep in my heart that none of those things really mattered. I didn’t want my life to end small.

What I did was, I’d go to the ocean. We lived a mile from the Atlantic and I’d walk there and stare for hours at the big waves crashing on the sand. There was violence there but also wide horizons. I saw there both big desires and big threats I couldn’t yet articulate. Ocean storms could be terrifying, but I wanted to be part of them. I didn’t want to live in the margins.

The Ukrainians are now the waves reminding me of the bigness of life. It’s why we cheer them on, isn’t it? American veterans who have no history there go there to fight because, finally, there’s a fight for democracy and human rights that’s clear and straightforward, without equivocation. You can argue about different aspects of the war, but given the Ukrainians’ resistance, there’s not much argument around their fight for their right for self-determination.

We can’t all go to fight like that, but I think that many of us ardently wish for a life of principle, of cause, the kind of life our children will tell their children about.

Outside the snows are melting, causing white-foam streams that hurtle down rocks and into rivers that gush into oceans like the Atlantic. In our heart we want to be part of that explosive energy, the water that always flows back to the essence. Living a Life That Matters, a subtitle of one of Bernie’s books. In silly ways and in serious ways, this was what I wanted for myself.

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Aussie chancing the ice.

I’m thinking of my great aunt today, we called her Aunt Tzipi. She was my paternal grandfather’s younger sister. The family grew up in Russia so dirt poor that my grandfather left the house at an early age to forego his share of the food. The girls, of course, couldn’t leave; if anything, they were a burden because they weren’t trained or allowed to fend for themselves and would also require a dowry to marry.

Why do I think of her? Maybe because I started seeing the HBO series My Brilliant Friend, based on the Neapolitan Quartet by the elusive Elena Ferrante. I loved all four books. Together, they make up some of the greatest writing about women that I’ve come across. Forget the hyper-emotional Anna Karenina or the bored and restless Madame Bovary; in Ferrante’s books you see far greater complexity in two different, passionate women struggling against poverty, ignorance, stinginess, and misogyny. Don’t just see the series, read the books..

My great-aunt, too, grew up very poor and a burden on her family for no reason other than that she was a girl. A beautiful one, I gather. She was also clever and self-taught. She taught herself languages and could declaim German and French poetry even when she was very old. It was the old story: The son of a wealthy family fell in love with her, she didn’t love him back, but she had no choice. He didn’t demand a dowry; he even promised her parents to help them marry off their other daughters.

“You have to marry him for the sake of the family,” they told her. And unlike Ferrante’s Lina, who gives the world the finger rather than do something she doesn’t choose to (and pays the price), my great-aunt acquiesced. They had children and grandchildren, and finally made it to Canada where I would visit her to listen to her stories.

Once she sat me down. “I have a question for you,” she said. “What do women do?”


“You know, women lovers, lesbians. What do they do? How do they make love?” She saw that I still didn’t get what she was asking. “I understand how gay men make love; I understand what they do with their biology. But what do lesbians do? What goes into what? I don’t understand how they make a connection.”

If the biology doesn’t quite fit, if there’s nothing concave to accommodate the convex or vice versa, how is a connection made?

It’s tempting to think that connections can be made in just one way—till other ways arise. I just got a replacement credit card with a note that I could tap it and it will work. Do I have to remind anybody about how credit cards used to connect? You had to give it to the cashier who put it into a separate machine or else called in the card number, hoping against hope that the credit card company number wasn’t busy. It was a big deal when we could keep the card and just swipe it down the side, and after that there was the card with the chip that you inserted. Now, to make a connection, you tap. What’s next, I wonder? Maybe I’ll just look at my card and that’ll do it.

Regardless of what happens in Ukraine, there’s no such things as broken connections because everything is so fluid. Energy becomes matter, then energy again, then matter in a different form this time, atoms splitting apart and coming together and splitting apart again and again. That’s not Buddhism, that’s science.

I feel we have to do whatever we can to defeat Putin’s goal to overrun Ukraine. Raising the price of the war on various fronts may, in the long run, have results. We certainly can’t just stand back and do nothing in the face of shelling, killing, bombing, and shooting.

But be careful when the world degenerates into a panorama of black and white. The biology of life is so much more complicated than that. In the midst of war, it’s important to remember that all we really are is connection, all we really are is relationship.

How do they connect with their biology, my great aunt wondered? But people do, they do.

It’s hard to work that out right now, especially with the man sitting at the end of the long white table needing carrier pigeon to receive and give messages, almost a perfect picture of what it is to be disconnected. The same might be said of the people he rules, connected less and less to the world and more and more to state-approved media and self-serving narratives.

The chasm between us feels unbridgeable even as the shelling and devastation in Ukraine continue.

Bernie asked: If the world is one body and the arm gets gangrene, what do you do? Do you cut it off? Do you let it infect the rest? And who decides?

On some level, we all have to decide. Governments and corporations make decisions, and I also have to decide. Do I give in to hate and rage? What price am I, a simple American living my life, ready to pay for peace?

This is an urgent question for me even now, as I get closer to my life’s end than to its beginning. Since life is a mess, there is no right way or wrong way. But maybe there’s a way of how to be, what to embody hour after hour. What to never lose sight of! To realize that connection is the essence of who we are.

So, if we impose sanctions, it’s not with glee but with grief. It’s not out of hate or revenge, but out of clearsighted vision of how to inflict the least suffering. We can’t be self-righteous here; we invaded Iraq, a sovereign nation that has no adjoining borders with us, for no reason other than false intelligence and that their head of state was one of the least popular heads of state in the world. By all means, pay what I must at the gas pump, do what I can to support Ukrainians in their struggle. But stay clear, stay compassionate. Trust more in humility than arrogance.

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“OK, that’s it, I’ve had it.”

“Had it with what, Aussie?”

“I’ve had it with people. You humans aren’t doing anything for the Ukraine!”

“What do you mean? We’re sending money and weapons. 16,000 foreigners have gone to volunteer. We’ve frozen assets of Putin and his oligarch friends, taken Russian banks out of the SWIFT system of international banking, pulled out of big economic ventures and—”

“Has anything helped? Has it stopped the Russians from advancing one bit? It has not. It’s done nothing. Humans are pathetic. It’s time for me to step in.”

“Oh yeah, big shot? What are you going to do, Aussie?”

“We’re banning Russian dogs.”


“All Russian dogs. No more Boris the Borzoi, no more Laika or Samoyed, no more Siberian Huskies—”

“Wait a minute, Aussie—”

“No more Caucasian Shepherds—”

“Aussie, you’re half Shepherd yourself!”

“I’m half German Shepherd, the good kind. No Russian dogs allowed anywhere. You’re not allowed to breed them, kennel them, show them in dog shows (which is a stupid thing to do anyway), or cast them in movies (except those made in Bollywood). You can’t buy Russian dog collars or leashes, no Russian treats or dogfood. THIS IS GOING TO HAVE AN EFFECT, JUST WATCH!”

“And who, pray tell, is we?”

“DAP, of course! Dogs Against Putin.”

“Aussie, what’s happening in Ukraine is not the fault of Russian dogs.”

“It doesn’t matter, everybody has to pay the price for what Putin’s doing. I’m giving up premium Russian dogfood with caviar. You can count on me to do my share.”

“Aussie, innocent Russian dogs might suffer.”

“Right now, nobody’s innocent in Russia. That’s the trouble with you humans, you’re such wimps. I wish I was back in Texas, no wimps there. No trans canines, either. A girl is a girl is a girl!”

“Aussie, we need a little restraint here, ok? Those poor dogs. Who do you think is the first to go hungry when the money gets scarce?”

“War’s war. Putin has to get the message, which they have to send by pigeon to get it across that big white table where he’s sitting. Do you see him at the end of that table? Tell me, who else is there?”

“His ministers, I think, or senior staff.”

“And who isn’t there?”


“There’s no dog there! Do you see a canine anywhere around Putin? Do you see anyone leaning her head against that man’s leg, waiting for attention? For a big, juicy marrow bone on a weekend morning maybe, a little rawhide, or at least a Tricky Trainer with Salmon? Do you see a dog whispering to him to take things easy, drink a lot of water, throw a ball here and there? Do you see a pup chewing up a felt boot or getting comfy in a sable dog bed? I don’t. No canine, no canine influence. What do you get? War.”

“And who’s head of Dogs Against Putin, Aussie?”

“Need you ask? Moi.”

“Sounds like a big organization. How many members do you have?”

“One. We’re starting small.”

“What about diversity in DAP, Auss?”

“Diversity! Diversity! I hate that word. I hate it more than any other word—except Putin.”

“It’s good to bring in all kinds of different members, Aussie.”

“Like people?”

“No, like Henry, Aussie. Make him vice president.”

“Henry, vice president? A chihuahua in DAP?”

“Look what we humans are doing. Everybody’s joining the fight—the US, Europe, various countries in Asia, even Switzerland. Diversity pays off, Aussie.”

“No, no, no, DAP is an American organization, no foreigners allowed. Besides, how do you know Henry’s not a spy?”

“Oh Aussie, he lives with us. Surely, we’d know—”

“How do you know that Putin isn’t sending Henry to infiltrate DAP?”

“He may have other things on his mind right now, Auss—”

“Remember how he threatened to do things the likes of which we never imagined? Can you imagine Henry a spy?”


“I rest my case.”

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I take Aussie to the next town for her outing with her pals and Leeann Warner, and as I drive up the hill an ambulance with lights flashing speeds down in the opposite direction.

“Stop! Stop!” Aussie shouts from the back seat.

“It’s going the other way,” I tell her. There’s no traffic, nothing at all to hinder the ambulance in its rush down the hill, but for a quick moment I feel discombobulated. Am I supposed to stop if they go the other way? Keep on going? Veer to the right? Slow down?

It’s been years since I’ve studied the driving manual (driving rules for New York, where I lived at the time, not Massachusetts). I know what I have to do if I’m driving in the same direction as the ambulance, but if it’s going the other way?

And what is the other way?

These are the questions that I’m having at this time, especially but not limited to the war in Ukraine. Am I supposed to stop with my regular life? Am I supposed to turn? Veer to the left or right? What should I do? And what business is it of mine if it’s not going my way, but the other way?

My 61-year-old brother told me on the phone this morning that he’d like to fly over and volunteer in the Ukraine. Not to fight, to help. Maybe administer first aid, carry food, support the wounded, protect children, do whatever he can.

I have a similar fantasy. Show up! Do something! Show people they’re not alone! That last is so important. We’ve been in places of great violence and devastation, and when we apologize that we weren’t able to do more, we always hear the same refrain: It’s so good that you come because this way we don’t feel alone. I’ve heard those words in Palestine, Rwanda, Bosnia, Colombia, and in our own Black Hills.

But if I go, will I really be useful, or just another person eventually on line to get out when the going gets bad? Would I be a liability for those with so much on their hands already?

My body feels as if I’ve put on the brakes in the car: the upper half is shoved forward while the bottom half is belted securely in my seat. I will send money, that’s for sure—and what else? There’s a sense of wanting to draw a line in the sand and say: Till here and no further!

I’ve been doing somatic meditations of late, body-based practices. Throughout the day I take brief times out to deepen awareness of my body. What aches? What doesn’t move with ease? What needs a rest?

But that’s just the surface of things. I feel my breath go deeper and lower all the time, carrying the life force in and out of my body, exhaling so thoroughly I feel my feet practically sticking to the ground. And why shouldn’t they? I can’t detach myself from this ground, this earth, this home. It’s my foundation and my refuge.

So even as I think of jumping up and getting on the next plane to Kiev, the lower half of me knows it has to stay put right here, on the ground. First, I’m 72 and don’t speak Ukrainian. Second, a powerful intuition that staying connected to my body isn’t a connection just to a body, but a connection to the whole thing.

My brain is ready to look at the news every 10 minutes. Friends are telling me they can’t sleep at night. I make myself a cup of Italian coffee and as I wait for the machine to warm up my mind highlights the message in big, blinking neon letters: Citieses are being bombed; food will be gone. I watch snippets of last night’s State of the Union Address and think of Zelensky, who rejected American offers of safety for himself and his family.

We can’t miss it, we’re profoundly connected. We worry, we care, we send support to people we’ve never met, from a culture we hardly know, speaking a language unintelligible to our ears, worshipping a God many of us don’t, looking a lot more like Russians than like us—and we care.

Often, I decry our species. “You know that canines are superior,” says Aussie.

“Oh, yeah? How many species resonate so deeply with what is happening across the world?”

“Can I have my dinner now, please?”

The essence common to us all—including to Vladimir Putin—speaks all the time. Often, we don’t hear, we don’t listen, don’t know, get distracted. That is not true now. Candles are lit, people fast, they pray and meditate, they dedicate merits to the Ukrainian people.

And I, who didn’t even know whether to stop or go when the ambulance passed me going the other way, keep my feet on this earth. Don’t stop, don’t go, most important: don’t go crazy, stay grounded. Do your work—sit, teach, learn, write, help immigrant children. Don’t go to Ukraine but find other ways to help.

Most important, let your awareness of this body and earth expand and deepen into awareness of the One Body. I’m not talking spiritual abstractions here but rather deep somatic experience. In leading guided meditations, Bernie would point out that we inhale the exhalations of everyone around us, and they inhale our exhalations.

Everything permeates, nothing’s gone.

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I make my daily call to my mother. She picks up, hangs up.

I grin and call again. She picks up.

“Hi, mom.”

“Chavale, where are you?”

My grin widens. “I’m home, mom, in America.”

“Really?” she says with shocked surprise.

I laugh out loud.

“What’s so funny?” she demands.

“Mom, we talk practically every day, and every day you ask me where I am, as if I’m a block away coming over for coffee, and every day I give you the same answer, and every day you sound surprised.”

“It’s not exactly the same thing,” she said. “Not exactly.”

To tell you the truth, I don’t always laugh at these conversations. I get frustrated by the constant hang-ups and by the repetition of the same question: “Where are you?” “At home, mom, in America. “Really?”

This time I laughed hard, as if it was the first time we’ve had this exchange. Because, as she said, It’s not exactly the same thing. Not exactly.

I was in Bellingham yesterday visiting a friend and started my drive back around 7:45 at night, expecting to reach home around 9:15. Going west on Route 2, I encountered a rush of snow flurries and wind. That may not sound like much of a storm, but when you’re driving against them, they look like millions of snow shards coming at the windshield and the car and your visibility plummets.

It took almost no time for the lane markings to disappear so that I couldn’t stay in my lane. With no streetlights and snow covering the narrow road quickly, I found myself wandering off to the side, or else onto the adjacent lane, and once onto the lane of oncoming traffic. I exited the highway completely, found my way back, and twice veered off to the right, hugging the guardrail, putting emergency lights on, and just waited for a few minutes, hoping more cars would come, avoid my car, and drive slowly so that I could follow them instead of the invisible lane markings.

When I got home, slowly driving down the driveway and opening the garage door, my body unstiffened, my rigid shoulders and neck collapsed, and my heart broke open in gratitude that I made it home. And this morning, as I called my mother and we had the same exchange for the thousandth time, I laughed my heart out because she’s right. Even if it sounds like the same thing, it’s not exactly the same thing, ever. Not exactly.

Is Russia invading Ukraine exactly like Hitler? A little, not exactly. The old Holocaust-conditioned apprehension stirs inside me. If my mother didn’t have dementia, I think she would admire Putin as a leader; she always admired Russian leaders over Western presidents and prime ministers, said they were tough and strong, knew how to handle things. Said they had balls. But her heart would surely be with the courageous Ukrainians fighting the stronger and better-armed Russian army. She would see herself in them, it would remind her of that time many years ago.

After driving through last night’s storm, I felt this morning was a new morning, Aussie a new Aussie, an egg in a whole wheat tortilla brand new, something I never tasted before.

Putin’s attack on Ukraine affects me similarly. Reminds me not to take anything for granted, including the peace I live in and the comfort that surrounds me. Yes, I am aware that many here don’t have that, but that doesn’t negate what we do have. As so many have pointed out, democracy and human rights is a very recent phenomenon. To many it feels like forever, but just look back a century or two ago and you’ll see a very different land, not to mention that even now, so many people still can’t play that game on an equal field.

Bernie was not a pacifist. Many Buddhists are, and I think there’s an expectation that Buddhists should always be into non-violence. Bernie talked of the One Body, and he often asked the question: What happens if your arm or leg develops gangrene? An arm with gangrene is also the One Body, but do we just let it get sicker and sicker, and invade and kill off the rest of the organism, or do we cut it off? What do we do?

You do something, he would say. You don’t just prattle on about the One Body, you do something.

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“Snow again? How are we supposed to walk into the forest?”

“We already have 6 inches, Auss. Just look at how the birds are eating! Good thing I filled those feeders last evening.”

“You put your dog-walking clothes on!”

“On the days I know I’m going to be indoors all day, especially due to a storm, I like to put on my warm, faded, brown dungarees and my gray sweatshirt. But as long as they don’t plow the driveway, we can’t walk out, Aussie.”

“I feel stuck stuck stuck! Unfair unfair unfair! You know what this is? It’s a God problem.”

“A what?”

I told Aussie about an article I read on San Francisco’s Tenderloin District facing overwhelming challenges of drug abuse and homelessness. The mayor, London Breed, who herself grew up in poverty in the city, is bringing in more police and surveillance cameras even as others say that a different approach is needed. The article ended with the words of a man who grew up in the Tenderloin, became involved with drugs and prison, got his life together, a job and family, and moved out: “So they will just fill all the jails—and then what? I was a part of all that and it did no good. London Breed is not going to solve this problem. This is a God problem.”

I’ve been mulling God problem ever since in various contexts, be it racism, the war in Ukraine, climate change, or creating unity in a country cleaved by factions and disinformation.

I think he was referring to the totality of the situation, the complexity and interdependence where it’s not enough to just take care of one thing, you need to take care of many things because they affect each other and the total picture. In other words, partial approaches don’t work, and when you see that, you shake your head and say: This is a God problem.

I write these words while the birds go after food at the feeders and on the snow (see photo). The feeders are almost empty and it’s not even noon. The blue jays have arrived, lording it over the finches with their size and aggressive temperament, sending them away.

Saraswati, which Bernie gave me many years ago, sits on the window ledge. She looks not out at the birds but towards me at my desk, as if I’m the one who needs help. To do what? Find solutions? Volunteer somewhere, send money, write, pray?

I know that calling anything a God problem doesn’t let me off any hook. I can’t waste time or words on speculation or abstraction, there is lots of work work to do. If there’s such a thing as a God problem, there’s also such a thing as God’s work and I have to find my piece of it.

I am sketching out a fictional character who wants to end tragedies and save the world but doesn’t know how, can’t find himself in narrower, more practical scenarios that need help. He wants to do God’s work but not human work.

Hearing that there’s a dearth of winter clothes for children in immigrant families, friends gathered a small warehouse full of coats, jackets, hats, gloves, boots, slippers, and mittens. Jimena divided and bagged them by size and put many bags outdoors, and when I came over last night most had disappeared; the few left will disappear over the weekend.

I handed Jimena a Whole Foods bag full of crackers, dried fruit, jams, oils, pastas and beans. “Aussie’s friend, Leeann, gave it to me. She said that a neighbor brought it over.”

“But we didn’t ask for food, certainly not from Whole Foods.”

“That’s what I said, Jimena, but Leeann told me the neighbor just wanted to do something.”

That wanting to do something, that opening of the heart, that response that is almost a reflex—that’s what I think of as love. It’s so natural that, in order to dam it up, people resort to propaganda and lies; hence the need to “deNazify” Ukraine, as Russia trumpets, even as Ukraine’s president is Jewish, because how else can Putin convince his troops to keep on marching and bombarding civilians? SS officers had to go through classes about Jews being unhuman to counter their own natural humanity, otherwise how else lead mothers holding little children to slaughter?

Fear could dam up that natural response, or at least cause it to go sideways. A big reason while we, living in this Pioneer Valley, can be so generous and giving is because we have relatively little to fear from war or want, not because we’re any better than anyone else. Free of fear, we respond.

Even as the universe continues to expand outwards, another force pulls us in closer to one another. Even as I exercise my back every day to stretch it up, sideways, and all around, creating more and more space for ribs and spine, it’s all one body.

“Just because the storm is a God problem doesn’t mean that you don’t walk me,” says Aussie.

Groan. “Right, Auss.”

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