From his hospital bed, Grillot said . . . he hoped to get together with Madasani, “the gentleman I’ve now become best friends with,” and meet his son once he is born.
“After last night, we’re definitely going to be spending a little bit of time together,” he said. “Don’t think it’s going to be at the bar, though. Maybe some grilling in the backyard with a beer or two.”
This morning the papers told the story about how Adam Purinton killed the Indian Srinivas Kuchibhotla in a Kansas bar and wounded Kuchibhotla’s friend, Alok Madasani, yelling at them to go home before he opened fire. Ian Grillot tried to stop the violence and was wounded. Grillot now wants to spend some time together with the surviving Madasani, maybe have a barbecue together.
I thought of that this morning when I looked at the placard that Rami Efal, Executive Director of Zen Peacemakers, had put on the street on top of our driveway. He’d shown it to me yesterday and I loved it, but only this morning, on my way home from a meeting, I saw where he’d placed it. Oh no, I thought. Unbeknownst to him, he’d planted it in our neighbor’s property.
We have a small, pretty stone ledge dividing our property from our neighbor’s on street level, and Rami had planted the placard on the wrong side of the ledge. We know a number of our neighbors and I have a sense they wouldn’t mind such a placard, probably welcome it. But this time I had misgivings. I have very few exchanges with this neighbor. I was once able to render her a big service and other times have said or waved hello, but there is barely an acknowledgment. The one other communication we’ve had was a yell to keep Stanley away from their side of the ledge.
If they didn’t want Stanley, whose biggest wish is to pee on every bush on planet earth, what would they say about this?
I pulled up the sign and planted it on our side of the ledge. It’s crooked because there’s still so much snow and the ground is hard. And I wondered what it said about me, us, that we are so welcoming to refugees and immigrants, and still have so little to do with our own neighbors.